9 Tips You Should Know Before Having Anal Sex For The First Time
Anal douching isn't something we talk about much in our community and we aren't given many opportunities to learn about it. My high school coach taught sex ed. He said Keep it in your pants, boys. My advice is Don't keep it in your pants boys†and douche in moderation if it helps you feel more prepared for anal sex. I hope these tips will help you and your partner enjoy a new sexual experience that will ultimately bring you closer together. However, your rectum is generally free of faeces as your body does quite a good job of cleaning itself.
One of the biggest concerns surrounding anal sex is cleanliness. After anal sex, you should never try to insert the penis into her vagina or mouth without thoroughly cleaning your penis, disposing of and replacing the condom in order to prevent serious infections.
The rectal cavity is only a few inches long, so water doesn't need to travel too far up the rectum for most sexual activity. Anal play can range from light external anal touch to full anal sex. We took everything they said, combined it with our own knowledge and came up with the ultimate guide to gay anal sex: How To Bottom Like A Porn Star.
I know total prevention may be impossible, so let's say I'd like to minimize it. My partner is knows what he's getting into, and he definitely will be cool with it, so it's really for my sake - it's my first time having anal sex and I'd really like it not to end with shit everywhere.
I would actually eat nothing for 24 hours (except drink water), and then douche prior to anal sex. Shit absorbs into the skin, and the smell can take up to three daily showers to get rid of. Use a deodorant soap (eg, 24hr Irish Spring) the last time you shower just before sex to maintain a clean scent for hours.
A woman has a 17-times-greater risk of getting HIV and AIDS from receiving anal intercourse than from having vaginal intercourse. While you have that lube out for your finger, be sure to lube up the nozzle of whatever you are putting up your butt. While cuddling is a good post-sex activity, it would be best for both you and your partner to head straight to the bathroom after anal sex.
You may feel some discomfort if you're unfamiliar with enemas, but most people seem to get used to it. Spontaneity might mean you feel less like you can have these discussions, especially if sex has already started. Additionally, among subjects who performed 50 or more enemas in their lifetime, there is a trend for increased risk of anal dysplasia (which can lead to anal warts and anal cancer).
I started my career by syndicating a sex and relationships column all over the country and I sort of became known as the East Coast Dan Savage.†I then went on to write my first gay sex book, Men Are Pigs But We Love Bacon (Kensington). Some of this sounds pretty intense, but if anal sex is something you're curious about and you feel comfortable doing it, there's no reason it can't be a fun and pleasurable time.
The results tell us that only 37% of gay men always use a condom when having anal sex, while 21% occasionally do and 16% never do. Although pregnancy isn't a concern, STD transmission and considerations about hygiene may impact these numbers. So assuming that you're asking about cleaning things up before anal play, there are definitely some different approaches.
Vaginal lubrication, semen, sometimes blood… you name it. And yes, sometimes traces of fecal matter if you decide to have anal sex. And then there are those commonly believed butt sex myths, which could be preparing for anal sex putting an unnecessary damper on your butt play. Make sure you have experience of anal sex before you offer it as a service.